Two weeks ago, my Twitter timeline is buzzing and I was wondering what’s happening. It appeared that one of male Korean singers was saying inappropriate term to his “best friend” and he basically insulted his own friend in a livestream by masking it as a joke.
Yesterday, the woman clarified that he came to talk to her and clarified everything. I was amazed the way she calmly explained and compromised with him. One thing that sticks in my mind up until now is the comment by a random user saying “not only smack, masukkan pala dia ke aquarium biar mulutnya gulugulu like a fish jika bacot tp abis itu janlup peluk dia ya mbak jam, he lost himself but still deserve the loves, isnt it?”
“He lost himself, but still deserve the loves, isn’t it?”
@fallforeaj
I found it appalling to admit someone’s behaviour is absolutely wrong, but also appreciating that he is still human and he is still worthy to love.
Recently, people are into categorising things called red flag or toxic individuals. Some quotes and articles bombardised that we need to avoid or even shut these people in our lives. In reality, we can’t meet pure and saint individual. Our friends, family, coworkers, neighbour, even ourselves have certain toxic traits and that makes us more human.
People make mistakes, but it doesn’t mean we need to shut them out forever. To forgive means an act of kindness to ourselves. To build our peace of mind. Not to forget them, but to live with it and accept.
Recently, it’s been difficult for me to forgive others and definitely to forgive myself.
Those nights when you can’t sleep and keep recreating scenarios you wish you could’ve done. Those “If I were___” keeps wandering in mind and those regretful feeling gets more intense.
We occasionally punish ourselves and others then forget that forgiveness is the key to free ourselves from those cages.
It’s only January, but I learned a lot already.
I finally began to understand that forgiveness is not actually for them, but for us to keep going and forget those shadows in the past.
As a sensitive person, I’ve been perceiving those mistreatment from other people as my worth and value. However, we shouldn’t put our value as other people do. We determine our worth, not them.
I hope those who read this understand, too.
Catatan Anak Sastra 