Coping Inferiority through Adlerian Psychology and Johari Window Model

As a sensitive person, I tend to be more aware of myself, especially what other people perceive about myself. Sometimes, a little bit too much. Frankly,  I really envy of people who can easily ignore other people’s perception since this hyper-self awareness can lead into anxiety and unnecessary insecurity.

During our 20s, the possibility of us having projects with some strangers is quite high. In meeting different types of individual, we need to maintain certain boundary to ourselves and others. This is why freshgraduates like me tend to make mistake, or untactful approach in understanding ourselves, especially in choosing to what extent we limit our personal boundary.

Observing myself for couple of weeks, I’ve been anxious possibly because there are lots of changes happening recently. It’s quite overwhelming to part with some people and then suddenly new individuals came and resulted a brand new environment. It seems  I lost control of myself in dealing with others, and specifically my own autonomy.

What’s the cause? I have huge hunch this is about my inferiority.

Currently, I’m reading some books related to Adlerian psychology. One aspect discussed is the feeling of inferiority. The reason why people tend to be inferior toward others is not merely because we aren’t confident enough. However, it’s due to our tendency to compare ourselves to others. According to Adler, all problems in our society is all about interpersonal matters.